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    • April 7, 2011 11:44 PM BST
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      Been there done that like most of us. As I'm in a relationship I have to be very guarded where and when I dress. The main regret is losing all those great clothes and girlie stuff.
    • April 9, 2011 12:14 AM BST
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      OK I admit it - I have kept my minis!!!!

      Robbi - you ask 2what purpose does it serve" but the answer is simple - it serves Robbi's purpose and Robbi's purpose counts along with many others. Of course yoy have to strike balances, but unless more asnd more epeople recognise that Robbi, along with the Amy, Pauline, April and all of us count, then the balance will always - and unfairly - be tipped against us. What we do is not wrong, causes no harm to others, is fun, makes us and others happy. Even if you can't be Robbi very much cherish what she is and recognise her validity. XX

      Now then, back to the minis ...
    • April 9, 2011 12:37 AM BST
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      ermmmm, am i the only person, who has no guilt about my sexuality??? or who i am?
      i was born male, prefer female style. i am honestly two people, him and me.
      never had a purge in my life(hell were can i replace that lbd?) not that i have one, down here little is less. not that i am a tart. hehe, big 40 today, so i have to grow up(sob sob) and dress accordingly,
      seems its the right thing to do(like yer),
      anyway im now a fourty year old t woman. totaly happy with who i am, both lifes are good.
      so happy what ever to you all. xxxxxxx
    • April 9, 2011 12:40 AM BST
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      Happy Birthday!
    • April 9, 2011 12:47 AM BST
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      why thank you, your tree looks lovely.
      be nice if you came out from behind it.
      and before you say the same. my photo and blog are on tint. just as usual im having trouble with the damn things.... anyway kisses,,,jallie
    • April 9, 2011 12:48 AM BST
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      I know - I used to chat to you there!

      And I am from behind the tree!!!!! It's just dark - lol!
    • April 9, 2011 8:26 AM BST
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      I have read all these comments and can realte to everyone in one way or another. l came out to my wife a few years ago it was the guilt that drove me to come clean. She was ok with my dressing to begin with then turned on me told me to stop. Well like a kid thats had the run of the toy factory I was flattened deflated so down. But i couldnt stop but the ultimatem that went with the stop order that scared me. There was is no way can I stop as you al know so here l am back in the closet nearly. I am lucky in that l work away a lot and take Veronica with me. I have to say when l am away l have no feeling of guilt at all and quite offen phone home while dressed giggle. l have offen wondered where l wouyld be now if the internet had been available to me when l started down this road when l was 8. Well enough of my rambling love to you all and just a question why of why are we girls so supportive...bye for now xxx
    • April 9, 2011 8:39 AM BST
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      im know wha you mean veronica if the internet had been around when i was younger i think i would have had a completely different life by now .
      i always wanted to play with the girls (still do lol)
      but i think i would be full time by the age of 20 if the internet was there then

      i think im waffling now hope i make sense
      i may be having a blonde moment again xx
    • April 9, 2011 8:44 AM BST
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      you are not waffling at all Amy you are just being your true self...l sometimes think lwould be full time by now if the inernet had been around years ago xxx we are what we are
    • April 9, 2011 8:50 AM BST
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      aw thanx hunnie and yes my true self is now wanting to be out more and its hard to keep her contained lol xxx
    • April 9, 2011 8:53 AM BST
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      Yes l know what you mean hun the more l dress as me the more i want to be me so on and so oon difficult isnt it. Veronica has control of my heart xxxx
    • April 9, 2011 8:54 AM BST
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      Jallie, Happy 40th Birthday hugs Pauline xxxxxxxxx
    • April 9, 2011 9:20 AM BST
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      you are right there my head says one thing but my heart yearns for the other xxx
    • April 9, 2011 9:51 AM BST
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      Unless you live full time as a woman, which few of us here do, then its a balance between work family and T girl time. So its back to the guilt ( or not...and I do believe we shouldnt feel guilty) and Marianne's favorite subjecy - mini skirts xx
    • April 9, 2011 10:07 AM BST
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      thats true yes it a balance between all things
      and i dont feel guilty now and i must add its thanx to you girls and TINT and now this fab site
      i do have profiles on other t.v. sites which i do love but this is where i feel at home the most xxx
    • April 9, 2011 11:33 AM BST
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      Amy, And the great thing about not feeling guilty is that you can wear a mini skirt when you want....woo hoo P xxx
    • April 9, 2011 2:48 PM BST
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      LMAO nice one pauline and yes thats me mini's
      all the way xxxx
    • April 9, 2011 2:52 PM BST
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      mind you to be able to wear a mini and get into chat here would be double fun. A conservative day today as i am in a maxi dress - I am 5' 10" and it touches the floor, so must be designed for T girls. P xxx
    • April 9, 2011 6:09 PM BST
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      thanks pauline. hell the big 40 ekkkkkk
    • April 9, 2011 7:05 PM BST
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      Jallie ....that seems like it was a long long time ago to me.....40 is young. You go girl !!! Life begins at 40 they say. hugs P xx
    • April 9, 2011 11:45 PM BST
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      no guilt,minis and low cut tops. and 40....
      question, should i now start dressing my age???
      before anyone asks, photo and blog on tint, as usuall problems with new photos. jallie
      ps thanks pauline xxxxx
    • April 10, 2011 1:31 AM BST
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      Jallie, I would copy and paste your blogs etc from TINT and upload your pix back from there - as of 16th April TINT will cease to exist.
      Re dressing your age - why not do both? Dress 40ish and how you want? P xx
    • April 10, 2011 7:41 PM BST
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      I love this thread... I don't have any guilt anymore. I'm in a LTR - she knows has done for 10 years - finally got there I think. I can dress when I want and go out - and as I have that, the need to panic about getting my next fix has gone.

      Also I get my kicks from places like Transtastic and Sparkle - and meeting my mates in DRAB. Jes's all I wanna do is wear a dress every now and again :) oh and go out in public and cause chaous.

      The guilt passes - just need to be honest with yourself and other - not matter how hard that may seem at the time. If it's over, it's over - times the healer - but you need to start that clock ticking and not dig yourself in any deeper.


      x Becca
    • April 10, 2011 10:09 PM BST
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      becca, i was married, didnt last long. life and things as is. dont ask cos (well as far as im concernd) it was funny.
      not a lot of t friendly places down here, santa cruz is ok, as far as it goes. which quite honestly isnt very far.
      not knocking our gay breathern(yer like hell) seems we t women arnt welcome.
      gran canerias, ie maspolomas, next month, about 60 thousand screaming queens, omg ear plugs please, get the picture of life down here.
      so no guilt, hehe think its a spanish thing about dressing. half the country does it, at the drop of a hat, or knickers??????

      proberbley why there are so many fiesta,s here???
      i love to dress, but cant anywere near were i live. could cause to much trouble, as my male half works for a charity. sort of raise a few eyebrows. so its about a 100k trip to be myself.
      so life is as life is. no guilt getting on with life.
      jallie xxx
    • April 11, 2011 11:46 PM BST
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      i have never felt guilty about being a tranny, the monster [partner] knows and has done so for a long time now, and if she does not like it, she knows where the gate is, i know that sounds a bit harsh, you do not know the full story, so no silly remarks, lol. i do not see why any of us girls should feel guilty, collette. XXX.

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