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    • February 19, 2019 10:09 PM GMT
    • I'm a mature convincing TV who although married gets to dress fairly regularly when I have the place to myself, normally during the day I'm curious to know what other gurls get up to when they are dressed under such circumstances. I go out shopping (domestic stuff and girlie stuff) and also might go for a (solo) drink or coffee. I'm wanting to expand on those activities but am short on ideas as to what I could do (in heels and a skirt !) in my shortish time slots (3 - 4 hours). Unfortunately, there don't seem to be any other local gurls to socialise with as that would be a pleasant option. Any ideas as to how to expand Susan's activities anyone ??

    • February 19, 2019 10:09 PM GMT
    • I'm a mature convincing TV who although married gets to dress fairly regularly when I have the place to myself, normally during the day I'm curious to know what other gurls get up to when they are dressed under such circumstances. I go out shopping (domestic stuff and girlie stuff) and also might go for a (solo) drink or coffee. I'm wanting to expand on those activities but am short on ideas as to what I could do (in heels and a skirt !) in my shortish time slots (3 - 4 hours). Unfortunately, there don't seem to be any other local gurls to socialise with as that would be a pleasant option. Any ideas as to how to expand Susan's activities anyone ??

    • February 19, 2019 10:03 PM GMT
    • I'm a mature convincing TV who although married gets to dress fairly regularly when I have the place to myself, normally during the day I'm curious to know what other gurls get up to when they are dressed under such circumstances. I go out shopping (domestic stuff and girlie stuff) and also might go for a (solo) drink or coffee. I'm wanting to expand on those activities but am short on ideas as to what I could do (in heels and a skirt !) in my shortish time slots (3 - 4 hours). Unfortunately, there don't seem to be any other local gurls to socialise with as that would be a pleasant option. Any ideas as to how to expand Susan's activities anyone ??

    • January 23, 2019 11:51 PM GMT
    • Just as an update on my earlier post. I have been tested meanwhile and I am intersex with the XXY chromosomes and a host of other chromosome mutations. It seems as if most of my makeup is way more female than male, and that I never finished puberty, I am doing this right now, and that is the reason why my breasts are growing. Im a now undergoing medical treatment, because my body is hardly producing any testosterone and not enough estrogen for me to stay healthy. I am on an estrogen treatment regime now, and are rapidly feminizing. At the moment I am gender fluid, but the female side seems to get stronger by the day. I mostly present female now.

    • January 20, 2019 7:16 PM GMT
    • Hi been reading through this and many bunkum theories and un'truths.
      Many of the Herbs are not so good for you!
      Some need body at a constant temp to metabolise or just does nothing.
      17Beta Estrogen isn't as potent as Ethylene estrogen but isn't as problamatic as more natural and EE is very synthetic.
      But hormones are just hormones it's how each person is that determines how/what works just like a key to a lock!
      Many that have Gyneo from puberty have a head start as findings are if have/had makes you susceptible to hormone changes within your life cycle.
      Think it's because your receptors are different to other non gyneo's
      Even age isn't a barrier to growth as it's the person as were not all the same.
      I'm 50's yet still growing and if hormones change get the sensitive/sore feelings of growth.

    • September 5, 2018 4:23 PM BST
    • I am new to the entire transgender/transsexual world, and came into it fully unprepared. Because of a specific health problem (not an enlarged prostate), I was put on 5 mg Finasteride per day. This seems to have done the trick with my health problem, but I also started to develop breasts, not big ones (I don't know my way around cup sizes, and would not know what I would have). My breasts are definitely little (about like a young teenager girl would have). Over the same time, my "male parts" got smaller and smaller, and a pretty large penis has now shrunk down to a 3 or 4" small member. I am not able to get any erections any more, but still can orgasm if I am lucky to get a hold of enough flesh for manipulation. That was OK with me until a few months ago, when I got more and more the desire to have larger breasts. I have to say that I was born with only one fully functional testicle, and had never any really visible hair on my legs, arms or arm pits. I never had any hair on my chest. and I feel that the little body hair I had, is now also disappearing. Interesting enough, I have a pretty strong beard growth and a full head of hair (may be that is the other siede effect of Finasteride?).
      Here I sit, and dream of bigger boobs and if it would be possible, also a vagina, while, at the same time, I enjoy being a man! I do not want to change my gender, I just would like the "parts" associated with the other gender.
      I would never consider a breast implant. I was one of the original developers of breast implants (I am a medical professional, not a physician, but a researcher), and when we did that many years ago, we did not have implants in mind to provide some bigger boobs to people, but to help women that had their breast removed because of cancer. In such case the surgeon would leave a little bit of fatty tissue to remain just under the skin, and insert the implant to give the reconstructed breast a natural look. If such an implant is just shoved underneath skin of people that were not "meant" to have breasts, a very artificial looking breast is achieved that looks as if a ball was nailed to a board. And I don't want that look!

      I just wonder, what i can do except to continue to take my Finasteride, to get some bigger breasts, not much but just a little. If have no real clue, where to buy some of the HRT drugs. I live in the south of the US and I do not feel comfortable to talk with my family physician about this. I could do self medication and have to do blood tests every 3 months anyway. This would ensure that my blood values would be pretty closely controlled.

      I just wonder if there is anybody around here in this forum, who feels like I feel and wants to remain to be a male, but with female sexual parts? How does that classify me, not really trans of anything, or?

    • February 5, 2018 6:17 PM GMT
    • In one word..... implants.
      None of the legal pills, creams, foods, food supplements, exercises etc will do anything at all. They are ALL cons and a waste of time and money.

    • January 20, 2019 7:27 PM GMT
    • Use a 'Y' tap adaptor adjust the temperature sit on the loo. a rubber glove, hold it in place,
      and it will gush out until your thoroughly cleaned out.

    • January 20, 2019 7:00 PM GMT
    • Hi you want warm/Tepid water (hand warm)if cold get colic as puts body into spasms and more if too cold.But not too hot either as insides quite sensitive.

    • September 5, 2018 4:45 PM BST
    • As one of the "original" developers of breast implants (breast augmentation devices, as the FDA likes to call them), I can say that one should not be afraid to have those implants, because for the rare case that they would rupture, the contained silicon is biodegradable and is observed by the body. Once we had discovered these kinds of silicone, we did do self testing and injected it under our own skin. And almost 50 years later, I am still alive! I had an implant on my desk as a paper weight, and it lasted many years and nothing could damage it, not even using it as a ball tossing around to other people. (until somebody stole it, maybe a janitor wanted an extra breast?). I personally don't like to see them on a body that was not made to have breasts. They always look like a ball nailed to a board.

      Sophie writes about the fun having sex with man. I never could do this, I am still very much attracted to females, and if I would have the full transition, I probably would be a lesbian oriented individual. When I look at pictures of transsexual/transgender persons, it is the female parts of their bodies that interests me!
      I want to remain to be a man, but one who has female sexual body parts! What am I?

    • May 30, 2018 2:58 PM BST
    • My suggestion of a formal letter.



      Dear Sir Madam

      (Change of Name) Regulations 1994, Statutory Instrument 1994 No. 604.

      I find your intolerance and attitude discriminatory and contrary to the relevant acts of parliament, the requirement for your co-operation in making the changes requested.

      Unless your immediate attention is given to this matter you will leave me no option but to make service upon you by instructing solicitors to act on my behalf, with any ensuing costs and a claim for distress.

      ''The Adult Deed Poll will enable those persons aged 16 or over to change their legal name by Deed Poll.

      **people who have had or who are having gender reassignment may choose to change their gender title from Ms to Mr or vice versa. [in accordance with the UK gender Recognition Act 2004/05 as revised 2008}**''

      I must also remind you of the confidentiality clause in the said act, (Data Protection Act. Section 22 of the Gender Recognition Act was created with an "expectation of privacy" in mind.)



      Previous Names

      It is rare for an article about a transgender person not to reveal their previous name. This conveys the false impression that transgender people are happy to have their previous names made public. A transgender person takes a new name to reflect their public change of gender. They discard the old name in the process and the deed poll on change of name is quite emphatic about this. Under no circumstance is the old name retained.

      Why should you avoid revealing a transgender person's former name?

      You may place the transgender person at risk or harrassment.
      You may place yourself at risk of prosecution.
      It may be very difficult for you to undo your actions.
      Gender Recognition Act. 2004 legislation which gives a transsexual person full legal rights as a member of the gender in which they are living post transition, including the right to have their birth certificate revised, and to marry. The GRA established the Gender Recognition Panel which issues Gender Recognition Certificates (GRCs). Acquisition of a GRC allows the holder to apply for a new birth certificate. It is an offence in law for an individual working for a public body to reveal that an individual has a GRC, or to reveal their personal gender history. It is also unlawful for an employer to demand to see it as ‘proof’ of gender (just as it is not required of non trans people to ‘prove’ their gender).



      Yours etc.

      ............................................................................................................................

      Many thanks Crissie! I cant thank you enough. I think for the sake of all of us in Southwark I should aim as high as possible. Its patently obvious that Southwark council have no awareness of trans issues whatsoever. Maybe they should get with the programme!



      In the months that this has dragged on I haven't spoken to one person at the council who has any idea what the law says about this.

      Its bizarre, their man was actually standing in my living room doing a tennancy check to see if I was sub-letting or involved in some kind of fraud. Clearly I wasn't. The reason given for not accepting my deed poll? Because I might be sub-letting or involved in some kind of fraud!



      It gets worse. I asked him what happens when a non trans person changes their name by marriage or even like me by deed poll. No problem at all he says, its the change of title that causes the problem. I said the title has been changed from Mr to Ms by the deed poll too. It's legally binding. Would it be a problem for someone changing from Miss to Mrs? No it wouldn't says he. So why me? Explain it to me. Show me the southwark policy that says this is a problem. Better still tell me what I can do about it.

      I wont trouble you with any of the drivel he started spouting, lets just say he dug a pretty impressive hole for himself and flung himself right on in there headfirst.



      There is no policy of course. Or if there is not a soul at Southwark knows about it.

      Clearly that has to change.



      Thanks again Crissie!

      ................................................................................................................................

      Well done Crissie. There is no excuse for this kind of behaviour from any public bodies. If anyone else is having trouble like this then please let us know.



      Hugs, Katie x


      https://gendersociety.com/forums/32/uk-transgender-law

    • May 8, 2018 11:27 AM BST
    • Thanks Chrissy. Do you find that you have to keep re-adjusting it, during the day?

    • May 3, 2018 1:51 AM BST
    • I often wear mine under my clothes at work. I have the bladder version. Mostly comfortable and I am able to wear for 8 hours no probs. Only issue is the gusset of my knickers getting a little sticky if I get turned on.

    • April 23, 2018 8:27 PM BST
    • you can come and see me I keep quite a few of them in There are quite a few different types and can be bought form the UK you can even see them before oyu buy

    • March 28, 2018 2:42 PM BST
    • Does anyone own one of these or have ever worn one for a period of time? I’m looking for some ideas, suggestions on wearing one for a full day. Keeping it on; having to readjust it; the need to remove in order to take a crap.
      If any other girl out there has the experience I’d love to compare notes.

    • March 9, 2018 10:05 AM GMT
    • Cosmetic procedures require approval from the Restricted
      Treatments Panel and are subject to the criteria of “exceptional clinical need”
      as defined in the Low Priority Treatments policy.
      breast augmentation

      Voice training, Electrolysis hair removal (A permanent solution) are not listed as above, not sure about laser
      Sorry I was inferring that some herbal (so called natural hormones are not prescribed or recommended by NHS or GIC units, eg. Pueraria Mirifica etc


    • March 9, 2018 12:53 AM GMT
    • The doctor at the clinic said that I could take natural hormones (and yes they do exist). He did not prescribe them nor did I say that he did. I have been referred for laser treatment and voice training in the past and went for both.

    • March 8, 2018 1:52 PM GMT
    • Unfortunately the NHS does limit some of it's procedures, and how are you defining ''natural hormones'' not sure a GIC, Endo or doctor would prescribe some so called natural hormones.

      An extract
      https://gendersociety.com/forums/topic/8660/positive-obligations

      Any further procedure requested, including those listed below will require prior
      approval. Cosmetic procedures require approval from the Restricted
      Treatments Panel and are subject to the criteria of “exceptional clinical need”
      as defined in the Low Priority Treatments policy. Applications for other
      procedures should be made to the Exceptional Treatments Panel.
      Cosmetic Procedures
      • breast augmentation
      • reduction thyroid chondroplasty
      • rhinoplasty or other facial bone reduction
      • lipoplasty
      • blepharoplasty
      • face lift
      • liposuction
      • vocal chord surgery
      • Crico-thyroid approximation (only undertaken following speech &
      language therapy
      • hair removal/electrolysis (except as defined in core procedures)
      • procedures to decrease areas of baldness
      • skin resurfacing

    • March 8, 2018 12:16 AM GMT
    • Yes, I was told that I had to be on prescribed hormones. I went through the proper channels and waited for years before being turned down by the NHS for being on natural hormones. I was told by the clinic that I could take natural hormones, but that turned out to be a lie.

    • March 7, 2018 10:22 PM GMT
    • were you given a reason for the refusal, some surgeons will not operate on a Male to female trans person if they are not already under medical supervision or referred by a GIC for private procedures.

    • March 7, 2018 9:12 PM GMT
    • I tried Transform today and was refused.

    • March 2, 2018 7:28 PM GMT
    • Try Transform

    • February 19, 2018 1:18 AM GMT
    • Thank you ladies for your comments and advice.x I tried Mya and was rejected because I don't plan on having the S.R.S. I nearly cried when they told me the news. I am looking into other hospitals at the moment though.

    • February 6, 2018 9:21 PM GMT
    • I have not had implants, I was born with Reifensteins Syndrome, my breasts started to develop when I was about 14, something I would not rush into, if your on HRT or going for SRS, the chances are they will develop naturally. but my partner did have hers done some time ago at a clinic in Berne, Switzerland, but many clinics offer the service in London, make sure they have a good reputation and are registered, etc.

    • February 5, 2018 7:42 PM GMT
    • This is one hospital I've been to many times through an NHS referral by my gp when I was seeing pain specialist there.

      The hospital feels more like a personal home with a lovely reception, and communications with them was actually a pleasure to, lots of parking spaces and I was always made to feel super welcome when there.

      If I was going to risk my body anywhere, this hospital would be the one I would go to.

      For those going by public transport, I normally get bus to the morris dancers pub, then pickeup all white taxi's to the hospital and back, about £3 each way, and they have a nice android / iphone app where you can check where they are on it.

      Hospital: https://www.renacreshospital.co.uk/
      Taxi's: http://www.allwhitetaxis.co.uk/online-booking.html
      Morris Dancers Pub: https://www.beefeater.co.uk/steak-restaurant/Lancashire/Morris-Dancers-Scarisbrick.html

      Premier inn also very close to the morris dancers should you need to stay over if travelling a long distance.

      Hope that helps out :)