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    • March 8, 2019 10:23 PM GMT
    • i dress because i love wearing womens clothes its feels so natural i dont fancy men some tgirl i think will show me to tgirl sex more bottom than top i do like to play often with my dildo but i dont feel gay bi or what ever just a woman when i dress i hate my bits down below

    • March 2, 2019 1:34 AM GMT
    • Transgender is a complex topic, where consensual and precise definitions have not yet been reached. Usually, the only way to find out how exactly people identify themselves is to ask them, and sometimes, transgender people either cannot or will not define themselves any more specifically than transgender, queer, or genderqueer.

      Books and articles written about transgender people or culture are often outdated by the time they are published, if not already outdated at the time of composition, due to inappropriate and/or outdated questions or premises. Not only psychology and medicine, but also social sciences deal with transgender people, and each starts from a very different point of view, offers very different perspectives, and uses a different nomenclature. The difference is mirrored by the attitude of transgender people towards transgender issues

      In late 20th century America, the closet had become a central metaphor for grasping the history and social dynamics of gay life. The notion of the closet is inseparable from the concept of coming out. The closet narrative sets up an implicit dualism between being "in" or being "out". Those who are "in" are often stigmatized as living false, unhappy lives

      In the early stages of the lesbian, gay or bisexual identity development process, people feel confused and experience turmoil. In 1993, Michelangelo Signorile wrote Queer in America, in which he explored the harm caused both to a closeted person and to society in general by being closeted. Homosexuality is becoming increasingly normalized and the shame and secrecy often associated with it appears to be in decline. The metaphor of the closet hinges upon the notion that stigma management is a way of life,. however the opposite seems to be the case with transsexuals and cross dressers .the main reason the social expectations of the norm, heteronormativity, the two sexes, male and female. The refusal of society in general to accept the unknown, typically .religous parties and the uneducated.

      Historically, clinicians labeled transsexual people as heterosexual or homosexual relative to their sex assigned at birth. Most transsexual people find this offensive, and prefer to define their sexual orientation relative to their gender identity. Thus, a trans woman attracted to men is likely to identify as a heterosexual woman as opposed to being attracted to *same sex* women, a lesbian..

      To avoid confusion and offense, the terms "gynephilia" and "androphilia" are sometimes used to describe attraction to women and men, respectively.The terms "homosexual" and "heterosexual" are problematic for transgender people who do not identify as male or female. More broadly, terms defining attraction in terms of men and women are often rejected by people attracted to those outside the gender binary.expectations of the norm and generally by the majority of gays relevant to their sexual orientations.

      One study published in 1977 suggests that transgender people have more heterosexual than homosexual experiences. Bu did these studies take into account, how transgender people perceive their own gender?? Another study published in 1976 found an almost equal distribution of transsexuals between three distinct categories: homosexual, asexual, and heterosexual.However, this study only assessed 42 male-to-female transsexual people who had undergone gender reassignment surgery and does not address bisexuality.Furthermore, these categories have been rejected by many transsexual people as pejorative.

      This topic was raised several times in the forums, one of which was entitled ‘Does this make me gay?’ To which I replied, ‘’If you think like a woman, believe you are a woman and present as one, then no, it would indicate you’re a straight heterosexual woman if you fancy and have sex with men albeit anal sex. To which several people were outraged stating they were not gay men in frocks and would never think of having any sort of sexual relation ship with a man, . .............These types of responses seemed illogical to me? if not would they not see themselves as lesbians? Quite a few natal women enjoy anal sex, does that make them homosexual from the male involved viewpoint? Perhaps from his view he might be fantasising about screwing another mans bum. Each individual, has different needs, before I had surgery I spent a lot of time munching pillow, with numerous men, never imagining I was a man having my arse screwed, I was a woman having sex, giving pleasure and receiving pleasure the only way I could, now I get and give pleasure to my partner either way.

    • March 2, 2019 1:15 AM GMT
    • I am certainly not judging anyone to be what makes them happy, part time, some of us have to go that extra bit to live a life and be content and it is not a life we would have chosen if there was an option to be normal perse, my condition did'nt give me the option of fathering children, living life as a man. who would willingly embrace the complications and pain and rejection that being transgendered entails.

      As for men, fancying transexuals how can we know if they are closet gays? when most of them would not openly go out in public with a girl who perhaps did'nt pass and why did they always want to suck my dick before I had surgery or try and get me to screw them in the bum?, now I do not have a dick, when they find that out they lose interest!

    • March 1, 2019 8:41 PM GMT
    • I thought I had replied to this, I think it is how one perceives themselves, many times I have seen the 'does this make me gay question' gender identity does not directly relate to ones sexuality, if you live as a woman, think like a woman, then any relationship with a man should or would appear to be a heterosexual relationship, and if the same applies to your persona and you restrict your relationships with women then sure that would make one a lesbian, but sexuality and gender together is as diverse as the so called social norms. The thing I hate is the people that claim to be transgendered women is when they state YUK! the thought of having sex or a relationship with a man is abhorrent and disgusting. Showing ignorance and no understanding of the obvious, then there is the complexities of who'm one actually falls in love with. As for labels, what are you going to call people who are different from socially accepted norms?, 'IT'

    • February 28, 2019 8:56 AM GMT
    • I am straight and only interested in friendship.. maybe some company for going out to clubs etc... i am strictly platonic and i like dressing sexy :) hit me up if you are in US and align with my thoughts

    • January 30, 2019 11:38 AM GMT
    • ok since 5 Nov 2012 when i first posted a comment on this some things have changed personally at least in my head, but, sadly not in any practical / physically measureable way

      ok i prefer to be me, i dress to please me, and sometimes i feel sexy and it gets my mind to wandering around the edges of what i thought were my landmarks regarding sexuality, if it also ends up with me looking 'halfway decent' then bonus lol

      if i see a girl ( cis / post / pre op / or even a cute passable tg ) i react to her presentation, her overall femme-ness, her makeup, dress-sense, and 'effort' she put in to look good

      ive now realised im not fussed if she has an 'inny' or an 'outy' OR if her breasts are 'home grown', hormone induced, silicone enhanced ( though within reasonable limits ) or if she makes the effort with silicone prothesis

      if she attracts my attention, has an amazing smile / giggle, is cute or dare i say it sexy ( ok shallow things here, nice long legs, cute ass, NOT a stick insect but has curves ) then IF she has a similar reaction when she sees me ...

      then hell yeah lets see where it goes, and yes that IS a double or maybe treble entande ;-)

    • January 24, 2019 11:11 AM GMT
    • i am straight, but i love to wear panties,stockings ad looking at pictures at tv and cd,s

    • January 23, 2019 9:15 PM GMT
    • Just thought i'd add my 2p worth,
      Interesting thread, I've read some at the start, some in the middle and the most recent and it seems there really isn't a "norm". The early post mentioned that there were estimates of 80% straight, but I tend to agree with the last post, as the default assumption is that TV's must be gay, so all very confusing.
      I guess we all have our desires and motivations, all very different, but then we are all individuals, it would be boring if we were all the same!
      Embrace who you are, try something f you want to, don't if you don't, but the most important thing to me is be faithful and honest. Something I recently discovered when sharing my "femme" self with my wife.
      For the record (if there is one kept!), i'm straight, TV/CD (is there a difference between TV & CD anyway?) happily married.

    • January 14, 2019 10:57 PM GMT
    • I've had quite a few monikers, some absurdly slutty ones, but I'm happy now with Allison Ashcroft as it goes with my age and time of life - and is a temporary deception as to what lies beneath!

    • December 12, 2018 7:07 PM GMT
    • I've seen this topic posted and thought I'd replied to it ages back...….but I hadn't!

      I took my first name from a girl I dated not long after leaving school. She wore a lot of pencil skirts and I was in awe of her a little. She was as cute as a button.
      I gave myself a middle name of Amanda, as it is what I'd have been called by my parents if I'd been born a girl. My younger sister inherited that title.
      Brookes is simply my last name.

    • November 30, 2018 2:15 AM GMT
    • I always liked Jenny and it's a nice fit for me.

    • November 22, 2018 2:49 PM GMT
    • I love lace panties, they have to be black. Have several other in various colours. P?is two divine pair of DK just adore of the feel of the reactivated legs, being a mature lady I wear them in the cold weather!. And YES I wear panties in bed.

    • November 22, 2018 2:49 PM GMT
    • I love lace panties, they have to be black. Have several other in various colours. P?is two divine pair of DK just adore of the feel of the reactivated legs, being a mature lady I wear them in the cold weather!. And YES I wear panties in bed.

    • November 22, 2018 1:42 PM GMT
    • I like a maroon silky pair with strings, got them as a set. But like their softness after I tidy up my body. They are smooth against my skin and I wear them out until I can change them later. I find using coconut butter soothes your hairless body. I like to find another pair like them lined with black silk as well. Sometimes silk slips down while out, ok with jeans. Skirt might be a problem.

    • October 26, 2018 11:40 PM BST
    • I wear all sorts of colours, none which denotes my mood - horny in everything!

      Is that slutty of me?

    • October 26, 2018 11:40 PM BST
    • I wear all sorts of colours, none which denotes my mood - horny in everything!

      Is that slutty of me?

    • October 25, 2018 4:28 PM BST
    • my fav are, black,see thru red,black and white ones

    • October 25, 2018 4:27 PM BST
    • my fav are, black,see thru red,black and white ones

    • November 7, 2018 9:25 PM GMT
    • We met a while back, she was the same sizes has me. I came out to her about my gender problems and we shared an evening getting made up and dressed. Another night we did the same and I brought some clothes and stockings. We were fine until our eyes met and that spark ignited a fantasy of hers, to have sex with another female. Well, it involved oral and toys at first. by the end of this stage, I was in tension down below. My control garments were not happy. She released it from its confinement and we had full on dressed sex. We kept on meeting and doing it until my job changed. She found me on Fb again and She is now married to a guy. But it was interesting and helpful with dressing. Oh, going for a walk was a blast. I had gone to meetings before from home, leaving at night and turning up in the early hours. Had sex with a guy in a Hotel room into CDs and TGs. That was not the first time, but at least fully dressed.

    • November 7, 2018 9:24 PM GMT
    • We met a while back, she was the same sizes has me. I came out to her about my gender problems and we shared an evening getting made up and dressed. Another night we did the same and I brought some clothes and stockings. We were fine until our eyes met and that spark ignited a fantasy of hers, to have sex with another female. Well, it involved oral and toys at first. by the end of this stage, I was in tension down below. My control garments were not happy. She released it from its confinement and we had full on dressed sex. We kept on meeting and doing it until my job changed. She found me on Fb again and She is now married to a guy. But it was interesting and helpful with dressing. Oh, going for a walk was a blast. I had gone to meetings before from home, leaving at night and turning up in the early hours. Had sex with a guy in a Hotel room into CDs and TGs. That was not the first time, but at least fully dressed.

    • October 28, 2018 10:28 PM GMT
    • have had sex with men while dressed and it was fantastic, being treated and loved as a woman. first choice for me when I am female.

    • October 26, 2018 12:54 PM BST
    • Some of you may remember one of our members, Vikki Moore. Her partner Neil has contacted me to say that she has sadly passed away following three strokes in the last year. She will be missed by all who knew her.

      Vikki's funeral will take place on Tuesday 6th November 2018 at 1300hrs (1pm) at Lawnswood Crematorium in Leeds. There will be drinks after at The Brown Cow in Whitkirk. Neil says that all her Transtastic friends are welcome. Please dress in bright clothes. All flowers are to be delivered to W. Kays & Son funeral directors in Beeston, Leeds the day before the funeral or make donations on the day to the Stroke Association.

      Katie :(

    • October 22, 2018 8:38 PM BST
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      Just so it does'nt get lost
      Hannah Ceridwen Eluned Cavendish-Grosvenor, made a blog, so have copied it here for future reference.

      Hormones and Pharmacists

      Posted by Hannah Ceridwen Eluned Cavendish-Grosvenor Sat at 22:43 - Filed in Society Girl's Personal Blogs - 12 views

      Transgender females recently lnform me that UK pharmacists are, on the whole, 'Homophobic': embarrasing individuals by returning from the bowels of their dispensary with prepared and dispensed prescriptions for Estradiol Tartrate and Blocker (Finesteride, etc); and making loud statements and questions, in the presence of all and sundry, as to why they are required for a 'male'.

      i have bee the subject of transphobia from a specific young cis-female pharmacist on a number of occasions, and feel a formal complaint should be made to the Pharmaceutical Society. Comments please.


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      Cristine, Shye To expose someones transgender status is unlawful. Section 22 of the Gender Recognition Act was created with an "expectation of privacy" in mind.
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      Cristine, Shye
      Cristine, Shye The General Pharmaceutical Council is the regulator for pharmacists,
      pharmacy technicians and registered pharmacy premises in England,
      Scotland and Wales. As part of our role, we set the standards which govern the practice of pharmacists and pharmacy technicians.

      guidance on standards 3.5, 3.7 and 3.8 of the standards of
      conduct, ethics and performance, which say:

      You must respect and protect people’s dignity and privacy.
      Take all reasonable steps to prevent accidental disclosure or
      unauthorised access to confidential information. Never disclose
      confidential information without consent unless required to do
      so by the law or in exceptional circumstances.

      You must use information you obtain in the course of your
      professional practice only for the purposes you were given it, or
      where the law says you can.

      You must make sure you provide the appropriate levels of
      privacy for patient consultations. less
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      Cristine, Shye
      Cristine, Shye This document gives guidance to pharmacy professionals on
      how to meet the standards on confidentiality. The guidance is not
      intended to cover every issue and it does not give detailed legal
      advice. However, it reflects the current law in Great Britain.
      You should use your professional judgement in applying this
      guidance in your own practice. You must make sure that you
      keep up to date and comply with the law, for example: the Data
      Protection Act 1998, the Human Rights Act 1998, and the common
      law duty of confidentiality, and with any NHS or employment
      policies on confidentiality that apply to your particular area of work.
      You must make sure that all staff members you are responsible
      for are aware of this guidance and appropriately trained in all
      areas that are relevant to their duties.

      This post was edited by Cristine Shye. BL at February 29, 2016 10:05 pm GMT

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      Sect1 Duty of confidentiality

      Subsect 1.3

      Information, about prescribed or none prescribed medication, alluding to or making remarks about a patients condition or status.

      Sect 2.

      Subsection 2.1

      Do not discuss information that can lead to patients being identified or discuss forms or methods of medication in front of other people, members of the public
      or anyone not entitled to such information.


      _______Amanda Bruce


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      Thanks Hannah - and Cristine for all of that. Do not, ever, ever, let people who are supposed to help you and provide your medication put you down. It may not be easy, but give them a reality check, for example

      "What is on that prescription is between you, me and my Doctor. If you ever dare to speak out loud about it in the presence of others, you have committed a criminal offence, and do not doubt me, you will be prosecuted. Now, I want to talk to the most senior member of staff here about your misconduct."

      Indeed, save a copy of this posting, and if it ever happens again, give them a copy._____________________________


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      An interesting and not often talked about offence is under section 22 of the Gender Recognition Act 2004 which basically makes it illegal for anyone to “out” someone if they’ve found out by virtue of being an employer or similar. Although it’s a criminal offence, the penalties are quite mild: A “Level 5” fine, which is up to £5,000. As an upper cap, that’s pretty mild given you could quite possibly maliciously destroy someone’s life.



      The Freedom of Information Act 2000 (FoIA) gives a general right of public access to all types of recorded information held by public authorities including the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS).

      To date it would appear that no prosecutions have been raised in respect of this section 22

      http://gendersociety.com/forums/topic/10115/the-gender-recognition-act-2004-and-s-22-privacy a more detailed review of section 22

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      There are also Standard Operating Procedures that the staff must adhear to along with Information Governence rulings . All companies will have a website, where if you feel you have been treated unfairly you can report to the head office of the company & they will take your complaint seriously. When you enter a pharmacy 1 of the signs on display must be the pharmacists name & it will also have their registration number to identify that they are a registered individual. All pharmacies should have cctv operating in store to protect both staff & customers.

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      Breach of confidence

      1. English law also provides remedies for breach of confidence. A duty of confidence arises when confidential information comes to the knowledge of a person (including public authorities such as HSE) in circumstances where it would be unfair were that information to be disclosed to others (e.g. because the recipient of the information was on notice, or had agreed, that the information was to be so treated).

      2. Breach of confidence is the breach of a duty which can give rise to a civil claim1. Breach of confidence will usually arise in connection with the disclosure of information which has a commercial value, but can also include personal information about individuals.

      3. However, the law governing breach of confidence is complex and continues to develop to “reflect changes in society, technology and business practice”2. Further, Article. 8 of the European Convention on Human Rights (dealing with the right to privacy) has reshaped the action for breach of confidence so that it now protects the misuse of private information3. Therefore, if in doubt you should seek legal advice from the Legal Adviser’s Office.

      4. For an action for breach of confidence to be successful it must be established that:

      the information has “the necessary degree of confidence about it”;
      the information was provided in circumstances importing an obligation of confidence; and
      (for an injunction or declaration to be granted), there was an unauthorised use or disclosure of that information and, at least, the risk of damage (damage see Section 22 Gender Recognition Act the right to privacy releasing or imparting information that could cause distress or embarrassment to an individual) also see malicious transphobic remarks under hate crime

      Data Protection Act 1998

      The Act controls the holding of personal data, defined as data which relate to a living individual who can be identified from those data or from other information in the possession of the ‘data controller’. Health records, meaning any record which consists of information relating to the physical or mental health or condition of an individual, made by or on behalf of a health professional in connection with the care of that individual, are covered by the Act whether in computer or manual form, or a mixture of both.

      The data controller is the person who determines the purposes for which and the manner in which personal data is to be processed. My view, and that of the Information Commissioner in the Code of Practice, is that OH records are, or should be, in the control of the OH department, not the employer. The commissioner states that compliance with the Faculty of Occupational Medicine’s Guidance on Ethics is likely to ensure that the requirements of the Data Protection Act are satisfied.

      The data controller must notify the holding of personal data on computer to the Information Commissioner and pay an annual fee. It must also observe the data protection principles, the first of which is that personal data shall be processed fairly and lawfully. A breach of the common law duty of confidence is unlawful and thus also a breach of the Act.

      Certain data are classified as sensitive and include information about a person’s physical or mental health or condition. Such data may only be disclosed to a third party where one of the conditions in Schedule 2 of the Act and one of the conditions in Schedule 3 of the Act are met. These are very complex, but in essence either the individual must give explicit consent to disclosure or disclosure must be necessary for medical purposes and undertaken by a health professional or a person owing an equivalent duty of confidentiality (for example a clerical worker with a duty of confidentiality in their contract of employment). Medical purposes include preventative medicine, diagnosis, medical research, the provision of care and treatment and the management of healthcare services. Sharing of confidential information among members of a team of health care workers, as in general practice, is permitted because the patient is deemed to have consented to this by implication.

      Other data protection principles entitle the individual to information about what data is held and for what purpose, entitle them to a copy of the data on payment of £50, and impose an obligation on the controller to keep data secure, and to ensure that it is accurate and up to date.

      Human Rights Act 1998

      In 2000, when the Human Rights Act came into force, the European Convention on Human Rights became part of UK law. This is the creation of the Council of Europe (different from the European Union) and the European Court of Human Rights in Strasbourg is quite separate from the European Union Court in Luxembourg.

      A direct action can be brought in a UK court only against a public body, such as an NHS trust or a local authority, but the courts must take the convention into account in deciding claims against all kinds of defendants.

      Article 8 of the convention gives the right to respect for private and family life, home and correspondence, and therefore supplements the common law of confidentiality, but it is not an unqualified right. Privacy may be justifiably invaded to prevent crime and disorder, to protect health and to protect the rights and freedoms of others. The provisions of Article 8 are therefore very similar to the common law of disclosure in the public interest.

    • September 7, 2018 8:17 AM BST
    • You might get a better result of you repost on the technical support forums

    • August 14, 2018 12:29 PM BST
    • why cant I do the above?